To forgive other people is one of the most difficult things any of us will ever have to do.  But it is imperative that we learn to do it. We live in that kind of world.  Our lives and fortunes are all intertwined with the lives and fortunes of others.  What one person is and does, inevitably touches many people and it is an impossibility for any of us to get through this life without hurting someone else and being hurt by someone else. When that happens what do we do?  How do we handle it?  Our options are really quite limited.  We must do one of two things:  we can forgive it, forget it and leave it go or we can turn our hurt into resentment and carry it with us through life.  These are the only possibilities and there is no middle ground.  We do one or the other. In this weekend’s Gospel Simon Peter was trying to strike a happy medium between the two.  He was trying to find it in his heart to forgive someone who had wronged him.  It seemed to Peter that there had to be a limit to the matter, so he asked Jesus “When my brother wrongs me, how often should I forgive him?  Jesus responded “Not seven times but seventy times seven”.  Forgiveness is not some sort of cold legal transaction where you count the times and keep the score.  It is a matter of the heart.  It is not so much something you do as something you are.  When forgiveness flows from your heart then you have become a forgiving person.  How does one do that?  In our Gospel there are two very practical suggestions.  Jesus is reminding us that God has forgiven us a debt that we could never have possibly paid and we need to be reminded of that.  God cares very deeply about the quality of our lives and when one cares, forgiveness can never be a casual experience.  The Lord has forgiven us at a tremendous cost to himself and every time he forgives, it involves pain.  If we could remember that, maybe we might find ourselves more willing to forgive those who have hurt us. The second thing we need to remember is that by failing to forgive we hurt ourselves more than anyone else.  We do in fact become our own worst enemy when we fail to forgive.  We have enough problems to handle without carrying around a burden of bitterness.  Life can never be a big and beautiful experience if we lock ourselves in a little cell of resentment and hatred. Not just seven times, but seventy times seven.  Open up your heart.  Reach out to other people.  As a special favour to ourselves we must become forgiving persons.                           Fr John